The 7 Phases of Godspousery I went throughout the 6 years of my relationship with Lugh:
SHOCK & DENIAL- Yes, it was a very shocking moment in my life when I discovered that gods and humans still had romantic relationships, even more so that a deity wanted a relationship with me. Keep in mind I was 18 and still held on to my Christain roots. I really thought I was going crazy for a while there and I suppose a person can go catatonic etc if one doesn’t accept situations for what they are for. Somehow through out all that shock it turned into feelings of denial , yep , I ignored the calling in which Lugh was giving me for several months, good thing Lugh was one persistent deity.
ANGER AND PAIN- For several years I was angry with Lugh, and I admit it was wrongly so. I had felt manipulated in saying a godspousery oath to Lugh . In my mind he’d know how I’d react in certain situations, hence me blurting out my sacred oath to him, I didn’t even realize it was an oath at time so he relied on my lack of knowledge on godspousery as well. I was very bitter towards him for the longest while.
REFLECTION- There is a time where I reflected on my relationship with Lugh. How my anger with him was unjust that perhaps I should give him a chance.
ACCEPTANCE- It was only about three years ago that I accepted this relationship for what it was and I began slow tentative steps towards godspousery with Lugh. How, I wished I knew the term godspousery and researched online, but then again a few years ago godspousery wasn’t a popular trend, so I might have been out of luck in the info department.. Either way the situation happened the way it did for a reason.
SEEKING VALIDATION- I went through a whole phase in seeking validation with my relationship through psychics. It did hinder my relationship with him very badly. One psychic who had bad intentions told me that Lugh do not want me as his wife, more or less and only had one true lover. Basically she said stop with the sex and intimacy with Lugh. My heart broke when I read that physics message as he was the first lover I had . I was very confused as he was the one to chase me . I was literally in tears because I had learned to love him. Anyways it came to come that someone told me about the psychic , how the psychic thought she was Lugh’s only lover and his twin sister oddly enough. To me that didn’t make sense even in mythology Lugh had his mortal lovers. I came to the conclusion her psychic reading was only a fake smile so to speak, anyways I had been to a few psychics about Lugh when I came to the conclusion I didn’t need them or anyones validation for I already had Lugh’s validation from the start.
THE UPWARD TURN– Now this phase took a long time to get to where I adjusted my daily life to continue my relationship with Lugh to believe in us. Unlike most god wives I learnt devotion to Lugh after my unity with him, I learned to love him after the fact. That love the grew more everyday.
RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH– Like I said when accepted my relationship with Lugh for what it was it was like rebuilding a structure within our relationship It took a very long time to heal from the unjust anger I had towards Lugh. A godspouse is made through the love of deity through the tribulations one goes through and if you make it to the finish line you are stronger than you ever thought possible, even though the deities knew of your strength, you had to find it for yourself in order to find ones self. Lugh was always so good to me and forgiving always willing to love me so unconditionally, far more than any mortal ever had in my life. I had to go through 7 different phases throughout the years in order to fully love Lugh, and you know what? All the pain , anger, suffering I went through with Lugh was worth it, because Lugh is worth it, to Love fully and unconditionally